My Girlfriend is Pregnant, Now What?

Your girlfriend just told you she's pregnant. Now what?

You may be shocked, stressed, confused or already trying to figure out how to fix everything.

You don't need to have all the answers today. Your first job is to slow down, get the facts, and be someone she can talk to without feeling pressured.

Here's where to start.

Have questions about pregnancy, abortion, or what happens next? Text our nurses 24/7 at (806) 583-0400 for free, confidential answers.

First, Is She Pregnant?

If she hasn't taken a pregnancy test yet, start there.

A late period or pregnancy symptoms don't always mean pregnancy.

Pregnancy Support Center of Perryton offers free pregnancy testing in Perryton with results available in minutes. She can also have time during the appointment to ask questions and talk through what comes next.

If the test is positive, there may still be things you both want to know, including:

• How far along is the pregnancy?
• Where is the pregnancy developing?
• What options apply to the situation?

For clients who qualify, Pregnancy Support Center of Perryton can also help connect her with a nearby provider for a free limited ultrasound and assist with scheduling.

What Should I Say?

You don't need a perfect speech.

Start with something simple:

“I'm here. We can figure out what comes next.”

Then listen.

Ask what she's thinking, what she's worried about, and what she needs from you right now.

Your job isn't to decide next steps for her. It's to make sure she knows she doesn't have to navigate everything alone.

What Are Our Options?

If the pregnancy is confirmed, the three primary pregnancy options are:

• Parenting
• Adoption
• Abortion

It's normal if neither of you immediately knows what you want.

You may have questions about money, school, work, housing, your relationship, or what each option would actually look like.

Get information before assuming one option is your only realistic choice.

Pregnancy Support Center of Perryton can provide pregnancy and abortion information and help connect you with practical community resources.

What If She's Considering Abortion?

If your girlfriend is considering or already planning an abortion, you can still support her in getting personalized information first.

Pregnancy Support Center of Perryton offers free appointments for those considering abortion, including testing, ultrasound referrals, and one-on-one time with professionals who will listen and help.

You don't have to come in with the same opinion or have everything figured out. The appointment can simply be a place to get answers before the next step.

“I'm Not Ready to Be a Dad.”

That's a normal thing to feel.

You may immediately start thinking about money, your relationship, school, work or everything you thought the next few years of your life would look like.

You don't have to solve all of that today.

Start with questions like:

• What would we actually need?
• What support is available?
• Who could help us?
• What would parenting realistically look like?

Sometimes the situation feels impossible because you're imagining having to handle every part of it alone.

You may have more support available than you realize.

Is There Support for Guys?

Yes. Our center isn't only for her.

Pregnancy Support Center of Perryton offers support for men facing a pregnancy decision, including:

• One-on-one support
• Fatherhood education & mentoring
• Parenting classes for dads
• Baby & toddler supplies through the Know & Grow program
• Help connecting with community resources

We can also help connect families with resources for housing, medical care, financial assistance, WIC, Medicaid and other practical needs.

Request a Free Appointment or text our nurses 24/7 at (806) 583-0400.